irresponsible husband

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In many ways my dh is great - helps alot with dd, does things round house, etc. but when it comes to "important but boring things" eg sorting out what would happen if we died, money etc, he never thinks of anything - it's always down to me to sort out or bring up subject. It just seems like he only cares about "now" and not the "future"

That's men for you. Mine believes that if you ignore something long enough it will go away - like the 7 parking and speeding fines he got last year.

My OH is the same. He's brilliant with ds, but doesn't deal with money, wills or even things like doing the weeks shopping as he can't plan ahead. Is it that he doesn't care about the future or that he he just can't think/plan about it. My OH finds it really hard to plan anything in advance. It just seems to panic and confuse him. While this doesn't really help me at all we are working on it with him. These typpe of things just don't occur to him. He'll never tell me if we run out of bread one night etc so I can get some in for ds breakfast. It just doesn't occur to him that I might need to know. Have you tried talking to him about it or giving him 'tasks' to try and get him to get involved with all that you have to do?

Hope this is some help. With my OH its that these things don't occur to him until I point them out and then explain why they are important.

Umm i think it is a case of him just not thinking about what "could" happen. He's just told me I've f**cked up his day because i've had a moan at him about it

Oh yes, tried taking about it, but it never changes

focus on romancing echother, for god sake don't lose touch with the important things in a relationship, the other stuff is important but compared to enjoying each day together it is nothing believe me

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