Help! what would you do?

[missy8]

I need some advice about dh,he started a new job some months ago worked really hard and managed a promotion which is great right? but he also started talking about a female colleague a lot she then has been promoted above him and which now seems worse,i confronted him and asked if anything was going which he said there isnt. we had a really good heart to heart and he does seem to be telling me truth but i just cant accept this,my dad was unfaithful to my mum and because of that im really jealous,am i being stupid? Some advice please.

if he is mentioning her frequently then they obviously work together.
if he had anything to hide then it would be more likely that he would NEVER mention her.

your feelings are clouded by your past experiances. that is totally understandable but be carefull not to allow your previous experiances ruinign your relationship. trust is an importamt part of any relationship and if your dp doesnt feel you trust him it may cause more arguments....im going to do something soo incredibly sad but hey, i am sad!

its a quote from DR Phill and it made so much sense to me...."what you fear most, you make happen"

what i understood it to mean is that you are so worried that he will cheat that you end up pushing him away, he finds someoene's shoulder to cry on and they end up together....its a bit more complicated than that but you get the picture.

what im trying to say is that unless you have solid grounds for suspicion dont go overboard.
ask him about this woman at work in general conversation. if he is cagey about his answers then do a littke more digging. if he is opn about her then you have little to worry about.