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I'm moving on and moving out but feel so sad

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TedMoseby · 30/07/2013 19:55

It's not normal to move out of a house and for it to not be noticable is it? I've taken my few books off the bookshelves and the same with DVDs but they are swamped by ex-Ps 200 dvds and books. He doesn't watch or read them.

I moved out into the spare room and am surrounded by his degree stuff (he's 34 FFS). He says he cant have them in his room as it affects his sleep but it's fine for me to sleep with it shoe horned in the box room.

The one food cupboard we have ia filled with tins and bits that will NEVER be eaten. Same with fridge and freezer. Absolutely chokka. I've been fighting for some space, any space for 3 years.

When I rented my own flat (he kept living in a house share for 6 months) he took it upon himself to move everything into my flat. My small flat was suddenly full of shit furniture and books I'd never seen before.

I'm so sad right now. No wonder I feel like I don't belong here.

OP posts:
StrangeGlue · 30/07/2013 19:59

Aw OP I'm so sorry. It is sad but also hopeful in a way I hope, for you, as you know you're making the right decision.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 30/07/2013 20:00

Are you moving out of the junk room into your own place soon?

TedMoseby · 30/07/2013 20:08

I am Cogito Grin. It's just something that has always bugged me. It's not like I didn't say anything but he never listened.

When we moved in together I suggested we split the built-in wardrobe together. We would put work clothes in it so we could just grab them when in a rush and put the rest in the wardrobe in the spare room. That was met with sheer horror from him- "but how can I not have all my clothes in my room?!". So it was somehow ok for me to have all my clothes next door. The wardrobe he has is twice the size of mine.

The two storage cupboards we have are full of bits for a hobby he has that he hasn't done for a year now. And a bike that has never been used.

What sort of a decent human being thinks it's acceptable to take all the space like this?!

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 30/07/2013 20:10

It's the equivalent of 'scent-marking'. Territory grabbing. Thank your lucky stars you're not a pair of cats or he'd be pissing all over the antimacassars. Hmm

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