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Original poster

should i give him his stuff back? wwyd?

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CastroIsDead · 29/07/2013 20:55

split up with ex 8months ago. tried to stay friends but went completely no contact 3 months ago.
found a couple of bits that belong to him don't know if i should just chuck it or post it to him?
really trivial i know, not sure why im even deliberating about it to be honest

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themidwife · 29/07/2013 20:56

He hasn't missed them so far has he? Bin them!

tribpot · 29/07/2013 20:57

What kind of bits are they? Small enough to post without undue cost? What were the circumstances of going no contact, did you specifically terminate contact with him, or just drift out of contact?

Mum2Fergus · 29/07/2013 20:57

Box up and text/email to let him know where to collect them from.

kalidanger · 29/07/2013 20:58

He's not asked for them so bin them. Don't use them as an excuse to contact him. I know that's what you're thinking Wink

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CastroIsDead · 29/07/2013 21:02

don't think he has missed them as he hasn't asked for them.
wouldn't cost me much to post them could even just put them through the door but would rather not do that i don't want to invade in a way even though i drive past his house most days.
i cut contact after not seeing him for 2 months despite him saying he wanted contact with my ds, was pretty acrimonious in the end

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Original poster
CastroIsDead · 29/07/2013 21:04

Kali i know i don't want him to know he's even entered my head in a way. i wouldn't contact him tho just post

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ImperialBlether · 29/07/2013 21:05

What's the value of the items? Are they worth having? Is he likely to miss them?

Doodlez · 29/07/2013 21:07

Stick them at the back of a cupboard and forget about them until/if he asks for them.

expatinscotland · 29/07/2013 21:07

Bin them.

tribpot · 29/07/2013 21:09

Definitely don't put them through the door. Given what you've said, I would stick them in a cupboard like Doodlez says. Stick to no contact and move on.

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CastroIsDead · 29/07/2013 21:11

not really worth anything one is something he brought back from a long holiday and ostensibly something he could use.
think i will just bin thanks don't want to keep them in the house really would rather get rid one way or the other.

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Original poster
CastroIsDead · 29/07/2013 21:13

i don't know what ostensibly means. * is something

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Tittypulumpcious · 29/07/2013 21:24

They don't belong to you and regardless if he's forgotten about them or not they are not yours to bin. Stick them in the post.

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CastroIsDead · 29/07/2013 21:33

see that's what i thought Titty, would feel bad chucking it

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themidwife · 29/07/2013 21:34

Just put them in the shed then. If he ever asks for them you can dig them out!

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CastroIsDead · 30/07/2013 18:47

hmm don't think i want to keep it just in case. i just want it gone. will be good for me to get rid of the last couple of bits one way or the other.
think i will just post, he might not even know its from me and i doubt he would contact me to say thanks anyway

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DizzyPurple · 30/07/2013 20:04

If you're driving past just dump it on the doorstep!

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