Some quick advice on whether I should leave him

[Unhappygirlfriend]

Hi,

Bit scary writing this and have namechanged. I think I have finally realised that my relationship is not working and it never will. We argue too much and I am unhappy too often. He has done some horrible things and I can't forgive or forget.

We live together, no children.

The problem I have is if I tell him to leave now it will leave me very tight financially for a while. Nothing major, I'd still be able to eat and survive, just a bit tight. However, if I waited a few months I would be in a much better financial situation.

Also, I am going through a difficult time at the moment with the death of a family member.

It is not so bad that I can't stand to be around him. I just know he is not 'the one'.

WWYD? Ty.

Personally, I'd rather have no money and be happy.

With no children you don't have a problem. Are you on his pay roll?

I don't think you can really stay with him just because you need his moneyif you know it's over. That seems a bit like you would be using him.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Finish it now. 'Just a few months' will be a long long time in terms of your own self-respect, honestly. Good luck.

How many months?

As long as there isn't any abuse/threat of violence/escalating arguments...

I would sort myself out and get gone, but if it isn't more than a couple of months (which would be about the time I'd need to sort myself out) I would stay and leave in a better financial situation.

Be careful, and be honest with yourself, is the money worth the misery?

I am completely self-sufficient with money, in fact he is reliant on me if anything! It's just that at the moment I have a few extra outgoings and a couple of bits that need paying off. I have worked it out that if he went now, I would JUST be able to cover rent, bills, food etc. However in about 2 or 3 months time I would have some disposable income.
I'm just not in a happy place at the moment and I fear that death of a loved one + leaving my partner (which would still be hard and upsetting as I know I'll miss him a lot) + money worries = a very hard time.