Match Affinity questions

[middleagedspread]

My lovely friend has just signed up.
She's 52, pretty, smart, amusing & an all-round great catch.
Why, when we put in the search options does it come up with 'nobody meets your criteria'?
Apart from age (she put 54) she answered 'not important' to education, children at home, ethnicity etc.
Any experts out there?

I found the search criteria on Match to be crap when I was on there and your friend is probably not getting any results because nobody else selected 'not important' to those questions.

I always assumed that 'not important' meant that any answer that someone had put would be fine, but I think it means that everyone else has to also choose 'not important' for them to show up in your results.

You have to be really specific sometimes or else you get completely different results, or no results. What I ended up doing in the end was just choosing an age range for the women and then a location range of about 15 miles and see who shows up in the results; then I'd go through them all to see if I liked the look of any of them. It was easier for me this way.

Actually, what I meant to say in the above post was that you can be too specific sometimes and that it might be better to just do the age range and location range to see who turns up.

Hope this helps.

That is helpful thanks.
It doesn't seem to offer an age range, just an age. If we put in 52 we get blokes of 49, if we put in 54 we get 61 year olds.
That's interesting about the 'not important' too.
Thanks.

Sorry, meant to ask. We've been truthful about her age, but it seems from the profile pics that most aren't. What's your experience?

Seems a technologically challenged site. I did a trial sign up yesterday. It rejected username in the format [firstname]222 because that was "reserved" by the system and wanted it expanded to [firstname]222a422. How user friendly is that? Then it offered me lots of men when I said I was a M looking for W.

It's so frustrating. Trouble is she's paid ££ for 6 months. Of course, there's no phone number on the helpline, just generic answers.

I think one of the problems is that all the profiles stay active even when the person is no longer an active member so can't reply.

I'm afraid I found it a complete rip-off, sorry that's no use to your friend but at least she knows it's nothing she's doing 'wrong'.

Match affinity has a bad reputation compared to lots of other sites, like match or OKC (free)

I found when I was doing searches on match.com that for some reason it randomly added 'must be 6'5"' to my criteria. So I got no hits at all. I removed that and it worked fine.

I had big problems with the site. Not one vaguely suitable match in 18 months. It was so bad that I completely forgot it was still live until the second time it auto renewed despite my emails trying to cancel the first time. I came to the conclusion that this was probably because most men my age would filter out women their age hence no matches except from some men 20 years older

"I found when I was doing searches on match.com that for some reason it randomly added 'must be 6'5"' to my criteria."

Of all the search specifics to randomly add to your criteria for choosing a woman, that's definitely not the most helpful one.

I found a distinct change in the usefulness of OD the nearer to 40 I got. In fact there was a big difference between 36-38. No surprise then that at 54 it's not going to be useful. There are a lot of men hoping for women 10 or twenty years younger than themselves - the mind boggles when you see the state of them. Given that most men my own age have gone out to seed a bit -whereas I'm as fit as ever - why would someone over 50 interest me at all. Up the age limit and there they are however, loads of them. Needless to say, have given it all up as a bad job, who needs it!