My DH has suffered from depression on and off for 7 years since our dd was born we also have a 5 yr old but the whole family life thing has changed him and he can't cope . Both kids are extremely active and my son is currently going through a dx for aspergers and I actually think my husband has aspergers hence the not coping the way the house has to be just so and the fact that he hates people!! Anyway he gets severe headaches caused by the depression or the kids just not sure which!! Finally got him to agree to see a counsellor and has emerged his childhood prob had a lot to do with it. He never went out anywhere and was never interacted with just sent to his room to play!!! Anyway the therapist has said as kids are the trigger keep away so he has gone out today and won't be back till this evening. Was hoping she would help him work through spending time with the kids not give him the easy way out. Anyway the relationship is suffering he is permanently depressed and hates his life as a dad. I feel like walking out and finding someone else who can be a dad to my kids and who is not so anal about the house but feel so bad because as his wife if he is suffering with depression shouldn't I be supporting him??