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What Would You do?

4 replies

bellabellz · 26/07/2013 23:00

I dont know what to do, I have an 8 month old daughter with my partner, however i am just not happy with him anymore, it started off great but went downhill. We live together but i feel as though he is not here as he wakes up and runs out the door ,then he comes back late at night and doesnt even hold his daughter for more than 5 mins, he ignores me locks himself in the living room and plays games and smokes till 6am then comes to bed and disturbs our sleep.

this happens everyday same routine. Im sick of it. when i talk to him and how i feel he fixes up for a couple of days then goes back to doing that again, i feel as though i am going around in circles with him, But Its hard to leave as i have already left my family freinds and moved far away, now i have noone just HIM for SUPPORT. without him i am entirely on my own although he is not much help i feel as though it is better than nothing especially financially as he helps with shopping and bills sometimes. I dont know what to do? will i cope on my own with NOONE and i mean NOONE No friends or family. I already suffer from depression so im scared it will all get too much if hes completely gone?

and will i ever find someone who will love me and want to spend time with me? im scared of ending up alone. but he makes me feel so unloved and invisible as he doesnt talk to me or even notice me, even when i try to look nice for when he comes home and cook him a nice meal he doesnt even look at me just eats then goes on his computer and ignores me :(
im starting to feel as though there is something wrong with me!

and part of me still resents him as he did not come with me to one hospital appointment while i was pregnant, i really needed someone as i just lost my mum and sister who were always there for me but he chose his friends over me :( so i was walking around alone with my big preggo tummy with noone, even the antenatal classes i asked him to come, ended up going alone, i still remember how embarrassing it as as there was around 25 couples then there was me on my own :( it makes me sad.

sorry for loong story i have noone to vent to.

What would you do?

OP posts:
HollyBerryBush · 26/07/2013 23:05

Does he work? If not, get shot. That would be my deal breaker.

But you arent happy, and I doubt he is either. Get shot.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 27/07/2013 00:10

Leave him.

Scarletohello · 27/07/2013 00:22

You sound so unhappy poor love. You only have one life, do you want to live the rest of it like this? You are so much better than this man and yes you could find happiness with someone else. Are there people you can talk to to get some support with leaving him? He sounds selfish and immature and you deserve better...

QueenoftheHolly · 27/07/2013 00:22

Can you not return to the place you left behind?
I have a baby & your story made me sad for you.
You & your little one need a better man to be a good role model & to love you and help you. You cannot find that man if you decide not to look.

Good luck & definitely leave him, he sounds horrible.

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