curious about same-sex relations, any advice?

[Curiousityintriguedthecat]

hi. I am 33 and I have I think always been more attracted to women than to men, I've never really explored this side due to family expectations and because I haven't ever had the opportunity but its getting harder to ignore. I keep getting inappropriate crushes on and fantasies about the most unlikely of women and this isn't something I've acted on but when I self stimulate myself my fantasies are about women.

I would love to try it but don't know where to start. I think I'd be scared to take a leading role.

I just wondered if anybody had any advice, or helpful suggestions?

Sorry, I dont have any experience myself but I'll post anyway

Are you free and single? Have you looked on any gay dating sites?

I am single, but I definitely don't want a relationship with someone :)

There are options, depending on how brave you are and your interests. You could just go to a gay / lesbian bar or club night - dive right in but you may not make the connection you're looking for. Go to a social event at a gay community centre near you. When I lived in London, I met women through a website called Gingerbeer. They had a night out once a week which was fun. Good luck!

I am single, but I definitely don't want a relationship with someone

What do you want to do then? Sexytimes?

Go out to a bar or gay night and get chatting - it's actually very easy to hook up with women this way, there's much less expectation or pressure than on straight people I think. You can go home with someone, and it can be causal or hook up and end up dating them properly - no labels like 'easy' involved! As for not wanting to take a 'leading' role , you'll be fine it's more equal actually but I'm sure you'll find someone to, er, guide you as it were. You know more than you think!