I'm thinking DP may have aspergers traits?

[SkidbyMill]

Transcript of our conversation last night:

me: "I ended up working late to...."
dp: "I think Kate has had the baby!"
me: "oh right (neither of us are usually interested in such things) anyway I was just saying that I ended up ... "
dp: "hang on I'll turn on the news"
me: "right. so yeah I ended up working late tonight but I don't mind be..."
dp: "ha!! look at that bloke in the crowd!" (pointing at the tv)

so I give up on this conversation. Bit later :

me: "Oh I had the sweetest customer today! she ... "
dp: "where is that paperwork that was on the side?"
me: "in the drawer. Anyway I was just saying that today I ... "
dp: "which drawer?"
me: "that one!! anyway I was just ... "
dp: "oh I was hoping to sort that out tonight."

I give up. Other clues - he often butts in mid sentance, not just with me but with everyone. He often doesn't listen to people, talks over people, can show a lack of emotion and can be quite cold. Sometimes doesn't seem to realise that his actions are wrong. Could just be a bit of a twat but could it be aspergers? he does have an autistic son and his ex always blamed him for the son having autism saying he was quite autistic himself!

well yeah, could be

How long have u been together? Have u not noticed anything before?

Google the Simon Baron-Cohen Asperger's Test.

You can do it online. It's only a rough guide...

So being a "twat" = autism.

No, it sounds as though he's going out of his way to block you and not listen to you. It sounds quite deliberate and is extremely disrespectful.

From these descriptions, he is not missing social cues, but desperately talking over you because he wants to shut you up.

Agree with wordybird.

I agree with wordybird, too.

He does sound like my teenage DS, who was diagnosed with AS at GOSH and attends one of the only specialist schools for AS in the country. I can imagine having those conversations with quite a few of the boys there tbh . Autism does have strong genetic links (have never known anyone diagnosed who doesn't have at least one family member on the spectrum). You can get a referral for diagnosis through your GP, but it's not easy - took us five years to get a formal diagnosis for DS and they did deny it at one stage before we asked for a second opinion.

Agree totally Cissy! how god damn rude and insensitive of you!

I have Asperger's and have been told I butt in.

I never mean to and this is probably the reason I don't have any real friends - which really upsets me. Even DS picks up on it.

If I'm thinking something then I'm saying it. I can't seem to hold thoughts in my head.

I seem to hear what other people are saying several seconds after they've said it, so what I say overlaps because I've not realised they've said anything. Don't know if that makes sense.

I also come across as cold and emotionless. If I try to sympathise about something I just sound sarcastic so it's easier not to bother. It's also partly from years and years of bullying. I've learn to keep myself to myself and don't give anything away.

Is a hard way to live.