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Just wondering if I am a prude or are men really this obsessed about sex.

A bit of background, I am separated and have young children, as does the person I am currently seeing. We are simply dating and enjoying each other's company and it is not too serious as I do not want to involve the children.

In the beginning I used to enjoy his company and we would meet for lunch and dinner. As time has progressed I feel like we only meet for sex. My partner increasingly has to travel abroad with his business so we constantly text each other too.

But all our conversations inevitably end up about sex. He is always horny and will sometimes send me pictures, which I never ask for and then expects one back. Occasionally I will send one but I feel under pressure to do so sometimes and he is disappointed if I do not.

My ex dh was never interested in sex with me and neither did he ever openly talk about it. We were not very adventurous either so I feel I am a bit inexperienced compared to my partner now. So I am faced with two extremes.

The question is whether this is normal, do men really only think about one thing. I wish we could talk about other things somethings not just sexual. Am I a prude for not wanting to always see pics of himself (quite explict)?

Every time I feel like ending it, he'll be really loving and attentive but then he pushes me way he constantly talks or wants sex.

Sorry for the long message. Just a bit confused.

Oh god the internet is fantastic but the truth is it's turned so many men into complete wankers.

Do women really get excited to receive a knob picture? Presumably he's been fiddling with it first. Hope he washed his hands before he sent it.

Fairenuff couldn't say, but I suspect he gets excited sending it. Which for him is probably the point.

Great suggestion from Pictish

I do like Pictish's suggestion - very funny. I haven't sent any pics of that yet and don't intend to.

I don't really get excited with the pictures themselves, if anything, I find it quite funny that he loves himself so much to send them.

Solidbrassgold - you are right. Ultimately he is selfish but every time I try to end it, we split up for a bit but end up contacting each other again.

Thank you once again for all the replies, some have made me laugh and some have enforced my concerns. I guess I am not self confident and just needed some re-assurnance that I'm not a prude or that it is normal for all men to be horny allll the time.

Pictish, you are queen of the put-downs! You should be for hire in the event of any relationship breakdown.

Some men are into talking about it and lots and are very visual so love pictures. Often the ones into pics are also watching plenty of porn too. Interestingly, I once met someone like this but I found the lack of actual sex frustrating -somehow I think he saw frustration as a fun thing in itself, whereas I'd hate to be stuck in that mode for long periods.
Pics to me are pointless unless have the body of Adonis (he didn't, I pointed this out but he still sent them, I either laughed or recoiled).
Just incompatible really, didn't last long, but I'd say his drive for the act was no higher than most and less than mine was at the time.

Why does he think it's attractive to send you a pick of him naked - unless he looks like an Adonis, it really isn't and you should never feel under pressure to send one of yourself, and that's not being a prude, god knows where it could end up.

Sorry but he sounds quite sad with his constant reference to sex, does he have a brain, he maybe needs to try using it.

Of course it could be that that is what he thinks women are for. You know, to be looked at and to satisfy his own sexual urges. He doesn't care if you want naked pictures of him, he's going to send them to you anyway. A bit like flashing isn't it. Eeeew

you seem to have answered your own question, maybe your X gave up being interesting in sex because you seem to have a hangup on it and this new guy will do the same eventually, sex is a normal activity in a relationship, many many women want more sex than their partner but are not seen as being obsessed, I think his reaction to sex is being caused by your reluctance to become involved