Could this mean anything other than what I think?

[singaporefling]

First post : have read a few 'similar' but am shocked/confused... All very cliched, but just borrowed longterm dp's tablet and saw he'd been on 'ukranian dating and brides' - couldn't tell if he was an actual member or not. He's been 'near perfect' for many years, we don't live together but have a very positive/supportive/attentive relationship and NEVER ever any reason for me to suspect anything bad - ever. Told him i felt sick and i've driven 20 minutes home, ostensibly to get medication. Am choking with hurt at this but can see nothing good here... Any advice ladies?

Don't be sad/angry/confused. If you saw him watching Midsomer Murders would you think he is planning on doing you in? No - he's watching for entertainment. Same with visiting dating websites.

Oh my God are you serious Medlarblossom?

Not sure I agree with Medlar, but I do suspect this is not necessarily anything really to worry about.
As a number of posters have said, even if he's going to be alone for 3 weeks the chances of him flying off to the Ukraine and getting married in that time are pretty unlikely... After 10 years together I'd be surprised if marriage was his first port of call (unless you've knocked him back consistently :-) )
If it was affairs.com or something like that you might have more cause to worry.
Just ask him and gauge his reaction, but I'm guessing this one's not an issue. Good luck.

I have been known to lurk on sites like these in the past and even occasionally dating sites. Literally pure curiosity, am v happy with DP and would not dream of cheating on him. When I looked at the foreign bride ones it was after I saw a program on it. The dating ones I sometimes go on to see if I can spot anyone I know so I can tease them :o

I know everyone says these dating sites are a red flag but if it is just in the history with no account and no messages is curiosity really such an unbelievable explanation?

Thank you everyone... Discussed it with dp yesterday - he certainly did/said all the 'right' things to reassure me...said he had 'no idea' about the site/was a pop-up etc etc... I certainly don't have ANY other reason to suspect anything and will try not to panic in future!

Oh and he was completely open with phone/email etc etc..

Ah a good ending for a change.

Batwings: seriously, you think it's ok to go on dating websites, curiosity of what exactly, sounds to me like you're keeping one eye open for an opportunity.

Jan, I very seriously am not looking for anyone else, especially not on a dating website. When I do look (very rarely) it is usually due to either extreme boredom or if someone I know says they have joined one, I see if I can find them. I have no intention whatsoever of cheating on DP.

By the way, when I say I see if I can find them, this is usually female friends, I don't know any men who are on them. Sometimes its funny to see the really awful profiles as well. People on MN even link to them sometimes!

Sorry then, I got you wrong, if I was looking for old friends though I woulnd't go checking dating websites, what would your DP think if he saw you doing this, do you think it would be so easy to explain this to him? Don't you have to actually join up to be able to see pics?

Not the ones I have seen, it is honestly very rare. Its not old friends I look for, last time a colleague said she had joined one so I had a glance and while I was there had a snigger at a couple of weird profiles. I think if DP saw I would just show him and we would share a laugh, we both spend a lot of time online looking al stupid stuff.

Experienced / god looking / players don't need to import Eastern Bloc shags.

That is all you need to know.

Thanks cronullansw.... I know, logic tells me such...and it's been nearly a decade of him NOT behaving like a player... Hopefully it's well out of his system and I'll get over myself!