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Divorce without DCs?

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Zorra · 21/07/2013 16:51

I've posted this in legal as well, and thanks in advance for any help.

My DB has split up from his wife and they want to divorce - in fairness she doesn't really want to split up but she does accept it's over. They broke up a while ago, got back together, tried relate and mediation etc but it hasn't worked. DB is not quite sure how divorce works - they don't have children or own any joint marital assets (they rent, but the contract finished years ago). They have a joint account with an overdraft of a couple of hundred pounds. They earn roughly the same: she has a lot more take home income as she had an IVA whereas most of his money goes servicing debts.

He wants to move out and just agree between them how to separate things they bought together, mostly furniture, and to take their own possessions e.g. they each have a lot of sporting gear. Is this possible? She has implied that she will 'take him to the cleaners' and that he should carry on paying the rent on the house so she can live there. I can't imagine that she would be able to get this but can anyone explain how a settlement would work between two financially similar adults without joint assets or children? Or any general advice on how to go a out getting divorced so it as pain free as possible financially?

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 21/07/2013 17:14

He needs to see a solicitor specialising in Family Law either through a recommendation or the Law Society website is very good. Assuming they're in the UK, if there are no joint assets and no children there are no obligations on either party to support the other after the divorce. They are both responsible for any joint debts but personal debts go with the individual. That's it. If she thinks he'll be paying her rent she's been reading too many celeb magazines.... Hmm The solicitor draws up the papers, they sign and everyone goes on their way. If she wants to 'take him to the cleaners' and sue over some sporting gear she's a bloody fool

GiveItYourBestShot · 21/07/2013 19:34

Hi zorra, my exH and I divorced with no chidren, we looked at all our stuff and decided who got what ( eg I kept the motorbikes as I bought them from "my money", he sold the car and we split the money as it was a joint asset funded from the joint account). There wasn't really anything we regarded as ours and had to negotiate over - which actually made me feel quite sad! Then we signed paperwork which said we'd agreed a financial settlement between us and the court did the divorce. All over for £400 quid.

Zorra · 21/07/2013 20:37

Thanks both, really useful advice (and quite a relief!)

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