Wow there really is light at the end of the tunnel

[DotCottonsHairnet]

Have posted before about my split with exh - seperated at end of 2012.

Well its been a rollercoaster ride - lots of lows but then something happened about a month ago (cant say what at it would out me) but all of a sudden there is light at the end of the tunnel and my future and that of my sons is looking pretty good. We move into our new home next month which we are all looking forward to.

Lots of other stuff planned over the summer too.

Oh and exh & I are getting on well - just as friends (he has a new gf) but we are determined to still be mates as we have such a long shared past that cant be ignored.

Realised today that I am truely happy and its been many years since I could say that!

That's brilliant - and it can't have happened without a lot of hard work on your part. I hope you're patting yourself hard on the back!

Hassled - it took something majormto make me realise I could just be sad all the while and hate him or I could make the most of my life and be happy.

Getting on well as friends helps all of us. I know not everyone can do that but it does make stuff more civilised and grown up.

I'm good mates with my ExH too - it took a good year or so, and a lot of very conscious effort, but so worth it in terms of the DCs etc. I just needed to separate the Bad Husband from the Good Dad/Basically Nice Guy, and not dwell on the former.

Now he and DH go to the football together, he comes round for meals - it's really nice.

Hassled - that sounds good. Tis what we are aiming for - have met the gf but not sure if we will ever be more than civil - guess time will tell. Sadly one teen doesnt want to know her or exh at the moment :(

I've been split with ex for 10 years and we are good friends now. I always say that at some point I just forgot to hate him and realised that he is actually a nice bloke who did a stupid thing (he had an affair).
Tonight he popped round on his way to a night out with his gf to give our kids some stuff he had bought them back from his holiday. We all had a cup of coffee and a chat. It was nice. I care about him in a sisterly way now and we both adore our boys which is something we will always have in common!