Friendship issues caused by me.

[hectorslarry]

Hi

I've recently left my dp and im trying to get my life on track.

I'm sorry if this is too long.

I moved away from my hometown a few years ago to be with dp. I'm still living in the town i moved to. It's quiet and im quite happy here. My friends i had in my old hometown (3 of them, I'm not very popular) have all moved away to another town 60 miles from here.

I actually have no friends. Nobody to text or speak to on the phone and ive realised now that it's completely my fault.

I started a new job last year and met a few girls through work. We all seemed to get on well and used to meet for cinema, dinner etc. I fell pregnant and went onto maternity leave and ive never seen them since. I have text and sent them facebook messages and they send loose replies or say they will catch up soon etc.

I have had my baby now and shes 4 weeks old. They were meant to come and see me a couple of weeks ago. One of them sent me a text saying that her daughter wasn't well and she wouldn't make it. I replied saying that's fine catch up soon. I waited in for the other 2 and they never turned up. I text but got no reply.

I logged into facebook later that day and saw several updates from all 3 of them about a day trip out shopping with a group of other people. Obviously I was really hurt but im not one for confrontation so i let it go. I haven't heard from them since although they are still on my facebook.

I think this is all my own fault. I have been unhappy over the past year and have been quite negative about everything. I've maybe moaned a bit too much when we have met up and been boring. I must not be good enough company which is why I can never seem to make friends.

I sit in by myself day in day out and if i go anywhere it's to the shops and back again. I'm so bored and lonley and it's all my own fault.

How do I fix this? Obviously they chose to go shopping instead of visiting me because it was a much better option but it still hurt.

I would like to let them know I'm happier now and that i could be good company if they were willing to give me another chance.

Any advice welcome thanks

Friendship is a question of perseverance and knowing when to quit. :) So you've been unhappy and negative... who isn't from time to time? The people you know through work are colleagues rather than bosom buddies and maybe that's all you really had in common? So you could try persevering or you could decide they're not worth the bother. If you're a new mum (congrats) and you're relatively new to the area, how about finding some mum and baby groups to join? Meet people in the same boat as you.