Is this weird or am I too suspicious

[SoSceptical]

A close female relation, lets call her Sarah is in a new relationship and it's setting off alarm bells. Am I being too suspicious when I can't see what could be going on that's dodgy.

Met guy in spring. He ran prominent local business. German national living in UK
They got engaged within three weeks
Announced wedding for July. When asked about haste everyone was told wedding had to be in July for business reasons
He is very flash with money, said they were looking at £1,000,000 houses locally.
Talked about buying Sarah a new car. Booked wedding dress, lots of staying in London to celebrate etc.
Wedding planned abroad, blessing planned for 5* hotel in London.
Suddenly announced his local business closing
Started looking for homes in london instead - new business venture planned there.
No family that he is in contact with/on speaking terms with
We are told he has operation due in Europe in a few months for long trm heart problem
We are told he has diabeties. Also problems which cause him to go to bed often. Attending local hospital for tests but Sarah is not allowed to go with him. He says his diabeties medicines are not working but Drs can't get combination right.
He moves in with Sarah's parents, sleeping in Sarah's old room.
We hear he has problems with lost passport and difficulties getting it replaced.
It emerges that previous business went bankrupt. Latest business closure sparks tales in local press of financial problems and unpaid suppliers/staff. He says business folded because staff were stealing from him.
House buying plans actually result in moving into rented flat in London.
While Sarah is at her parents he rings telling her he got called into hear recent test results (called into London hospital rather then hosp where tests were done). Test results suggest heart condition is considerably worse and he now has multiple cancers and is very seriously ill, passing out frequently and effectively in life threatening condition.
He tells Sarah he needs her to stay with parents while he processes bad news.
He is in their flat in London not having been admitted.
Wedding is now on hold until he is better although registry office wedding very soon has been suggested.

All of this has happen in about two months.
Am I being a cow? Why is this all making me prickly.

OP Again, I don't want to be harsh but wtf are you going to do then? You can't get through to Sarah's mum, you can't talk to Sarah?

What then?

...wrapped up in it....

That's how they operate. I'd also lay strong odds on her parents being inveigled into borrowing on their home in some way - as a 'temporary measure'. They may already have done so.

I have no idea how you would intervene in this one SoSceptical - although (and unusually for me) I'm quite convinced that you should. I'd be tempted to seek police advice on the matter in as low-key a way as you can.

Did they first meet online?

Is Sarah your neice? Different generation and younger than you?

Time to pull rank as Wise Old Auntie Sceptical, maybe?

They are highly unlikely to carry out heart surgery on someone with 4 tumours.

Someone with 4 tumours (highly likely 3 are metastatic) is going to have a very poor prognosis. I would doubt that they would offer heart surgery to someone with such a poor prognosis from an unrelated condition.

And how did they find 4 tumours from a diabetes and/or heart consultation. I can see how they may have found 1 if the appointment lead to an ultrasound on the heart/pancreas and a tumour was near these locations.

I would have thought he would have to have further follow up tests with an oncologist to a) locate any additional tumours and b) confirm that the initially found tumour was indeed cancerous. This wouldn't happen with his cardiologist and/or endocrinologist. It woukd require follow-up with an oncologist.

These are relly helpful replies. I am going I talk to Sarah's mother in the next few days and, in the meantime, another relative is going to see her to try and suggest that she calm everything down and stop this whirlwind and try to get some sensible answers to the more obvious wtfs.

You could try calling these people
www.actionfraud.police.uk/about-us/who-we-are

Or ringing 101 for advice

Certainly the medical details given make no sense at all.

sorry, link again

www.actionfraud.police.uk/about-us/who-we-are

Definitely doesn't sound right. Have you tried googling him?
How old is he/Sarah? Is he much older?

He sounds like a scammer n a con man draw a timeline for her and then leave it up to her love can be blind how do her parents feel ?

This happened to someone I know it's bloody awful