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Intimacy

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ocb1976 · 17/07/2013 21:26

Hi,

I'm new here - so please be kind.

I'm a mum of 2 kids, with a 3rd on the way (late Sept).

My problem is making love.

Basically my husband doesn't want it.

With the first, I got pregnant unexpectedly. We'd done it 3 times in the previous 12 months. We'd been together 7 years at that point, and basically "it" didn't happen very often. About 3 - 4 times a year, going back about 6 years.

WIth the 2nd, it was planned - and happened within 3 weeks of trying (probably 6 or 7 times)

With the 3rd, it took about 6 months. As you can imagine, with 2 young kids - it wasn't easy. We didn't exactly do it every night - but it was a surprise it took so long after it being so easy with the first two.

The problem is that, I quite fancy it right now. We've only made love once since I got pregnant.

The rest of our relationship is great. He loves me and the kids to bits, we have hugs and he gives me massages etc.

I've made suggestions, but he doesn't seem to notice.

I've tried nice dinners, massages and nice clothes, Nothing seems to make a difference.
Don't get me wrong, I can live without it - but is there anything I can do to make him notice me?

OP posts:
Vivacia · 17/07/2013 21:30

Have you talked to him about it?

Rulesgirl · 17/07/2013 21:34

Go to bed naked cause its hot!!!

Glenshee · 17/07/2013 21:44

this thread is pretty similar - and it's pretty depressing. You've been warned Wink

Darkesteyes · 17/07/2013 23:02

OP Im on the thread that Glenshee has linked. You think you can live without it but what if it turns into many years without it.

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