Help me frame this conversation

[Nadalsballs]

So, last night DH said he'd be home in twenty mins, I prepared a cooked dinner for our family of six for when he got back, he arrived an hour later. On a work call apparently. He couldn't call to tell me in advance.

Tonight we agreed he'd be home at 7.45 to help with something. At 7.30 he called to say he'd just left work. It's an hour and a half commute so he'll be home at 9. Again no call to explain in advance "just got caught in work". i know he had a long lunch today.

I don't want much, just a call so that I know in advance and can make alternative arrangements.

I feel he has no respect for me and work always comes first. How can I tell him this without sounding shrill and naggy?

I would start making dinner for myself and the DCs only, and when he arrives home and asks where his is, tell him you didn't make him any as you weren't sure what time he'd be home and you didn't want it to get cold. I'm probably a lot more passive aggressive than you are though

Seriously though, talk to him. Tell him how much it's upsetting you and that all you're asking for is a quick call, in advance.

If he still does it, then go with my first suggestion!