'D'H just smacked our eldest round the back of the head and sent her flying. Yes she had been naughty (her and her sister were messing around in their room instead of going to sleep and she hit her sister hard with a duplo giraffe) but i was dealing with it, i sent her to by the back door as its quiet with no distractions to settle her down. She is being investigated for ADHD and i wanted her to calm down before i spoke to her. She was running towards the back door when he smacked her and sent her face first on the floor. She is hard work and very trying but no child deserves to be sent flying like that ever. His reasoning was that it was acceptable as he was just doing to her what she had done to her sister.
I told him it wasn't acceptable and i wanted him to leave now, but he won't saying it isn't my house so i can't dictate. House is rented but rent free from his side of the family currently. I have told him that in that case i will be leaving with the DC in the morning. After hearing this he appologised to DD1 but hasn't spoken to me. This isn't the first time i have been uncomfortable with how he has chosen to discipline, but 90% of the time he is good and it is difficult for him because of my own disabilities which means he does a lot more than others would. But that's no excuse really is it.
It's just so messed up, the car with the DC's car seats is in the garage as the brakes have gone so i can't leave until it is fixed. The only place i can feasibly go to is my parents who won't let me take my dogs as they are allergic and my mum is what would be referred to on here as toxic anyway. Added to this we are supposed to be going on holiday tomorrow with his parents too and it has all been paid for.
I'm feeling very lost, confused and don't really know what to do for the best.