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[wehaveourlifeback]

appreciate some advice please.

We are finally moving after years of verbal and psychical abuse but now I need some advice.

My dd has become clingy she cries when I leave her at school, she never does this normally, but today she messed herself when she got home, she will not leave my side she is 5.

We have had our post redirected and had a letter from Royal Mail advising us of this and in the next few days this will happen.

I have tried to contact Doctor,etc but most need in writing so do we just move and then contact them please advise me.

I am worried that mail important letters will come here and I am worried we wont get it, I did request new address was not on letter from them.

How can we get through this I am scared and I need hand holding please.

Sorry to hear about your daughter - but this post needs to be moved in to another topic - maybe child health or chat - can you not go to your old doctor?

I would go to your local surgery and explain to them that your daughter needs help see if they can get her seen quickly - good luck.

Hi wehave,

We've moved this thread over to Relationships for you now where folks may be able to help with you Qs.

We wish you all the very best.

It is normal with small children during a break up to regress, and start acting younger than they are. So clinginess and toilet mistakes are simply a measure of this.

It is difficult though when you see it happening to your own child.

Well done for getting out. The pain of separating will do her much less harm in the long run than staying in that relationship would have done.

There are books out there that can help. I searched 'helping children with divorce' on Amazon and then searched the library's catalogue for the books that looked good.

Good luck!

Have you reassured your dd that although you are leaving dp, you would never leave her?

In a small child's mind, the logic can go like this:
"Daddy was naughty and mummy got angry with him and now she is leaving him. Sometimes I am naughty and mummy gets cross, so mummy might leave me too."

Yes, at this age I think you're supposed to give them lots of hugs and reassurance and almost 'baby' them a little bit.

Are you worried abvout your ex getting your new address, vis your doctor writing to them? Pls explain x

If yes, I think you need to phone or visit doctors and explain in NO uncertain terms the issue you face, and they should help

much can be done face to face

I think patience is the key with your DD, as others say she maybe has some worries she cant even express. I would try not to overeact, be calm,reassuring and let her start to come to terms with the upheaval.

well done on moving on OP XXXX

OP this is a nice downloadable pack for children your age, OK you are not in a refuge but some of the topi9cs here could be good to go through with her

www.womensaid.org.uk/page.asp?section=00010001001400100003&sectionTitle=Children%27s+Welcome+Pack