Fed up

[thoughtsbecomethings]

I feel so sad and fed up. Why does my dh think its ok to call me pathetic and stupid for things I say. I can never have a conversation with him unless its something he wants to talk about or he gets defensive. We have been married 17 years this August.
We both work full time and have kids I do most of the things at home.
After months of not caring about money and leaving me to sort it out which had been hard he has now decided to take over the money and I feel like a little girl asking my daddy for money.
Can't go on like this I'm miserable.

Not surprised you're fed up. It's not ok at all. I know that feeling of conversation only on his terms.

Why has this decision been made and why is it his decision? Do you have a voice in the relationship?

He says he's fed up having no money at the end of the month. I don't feel I have a voice as he always over talks me and the defensive sick of it and him

Treating you like a child is not the solution, is it? Did he try sitting down with you and working out a budget? Making plans together to save money? I suspect he didn't because he sees you as more of a child than an equal partner.

If you're miserable and can't go on like this, have you considered divorcing him? You've got ample reasons by the sound of it. Being called pathetic and stupid all the time is emotionally abusive or bullying behaviour and it's unacceptable. Him 'taking over' the money that you earn is financially abusive and unacceptable.

Find your voice... talk to a solicitor?