Do you expect much from aunts or unlcles that are only that through marriage ?

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Do you see the biological aunts and uncles different to ones that are called that through marriage. Do you expect more from the ones with some of your genes? Do you treat the biological ones differently?

I mean I'm all for making things fair really. Like we had them as my bridesmaids as well as my sisters and kept Our wedding more of a family thing. Maybe the being family isn't really important to some people.

No I see all of them as the same, my aunts are both through marriage and they're babes. Honestly don't know what I'd do without them.

It sounds as though you feel your DH's family should be closer to you than they want to be - you think you should have a nice, sisterly relationship, and they want to be a bit more distant. Perhaps this is more important to you because of your issues with your sister?

From a child's point of view, I didn't discriminate between blood relatives eg: mum's sister and non-blood/married-in relatives eg: mum's brother-in-law - they were just aunty X and uncle Y.

Your SIL might have just forgotten to tag you in the post, and isn't leaving you out on purpose.

And, obviously, I still feel the same about 'non-blood' aunts/ uncles now I'm an adult - I didn't change my mind about them when I grew up!

But you are talking about your relationship with DH's sisters/Mother etc - not how the children (nieces & nephews) will see you - it's not the same thing.

I don't really think about them in terms of being blood or not blood - they were all there before I was born and were all a big part of my life growing up - love & like them all.

I suppose if it ever came down to having to choose - blood would probably win out, but I can't ever see that happening, even if any of them were to divorce.

you are talking about your relationship with DH's sisters/Mother etc - not how the children (nieces & nephews) will see you - it's not the same thing.

I agree with Chipping.

I don't expect my SIL to treat me the same way my sister does (for example).