Dh and I have been together 13 years, married 8 and have two happy lovely kids. We've had usual ups and downs including bereavements, financial stuff, work stresses and so on. Dh has always been very prone to obsessive phases. He's highly motivated and focused which can be great as I tend to procrastination! Anyway I'm feeling a bit fed up with things. I'm finding everything he does irritating and I know it's due to the resentment I feel about how he is with the kids. Most of the time he just carries on with what he feels ought to be done round the house or whatever without thinking about the rest of us. When I try to raise the subject, he says he feels criticised and that if he didn't do it then who would? Meanwhile I rarely do things without considering what the kids want to do. Not in a martyr way, just because I like them! Where do we go when I can't get him to actually listen to me? It's getting to the stage that I am planning for a future potentially without him, I'm learning to drive, have a job, etc, so I know that I can survive. But, I don't want to be without him either! I feel very confused and sad.