I dont want to paint this as all being my partner so will try to be objective. We have two young children and have been together for 15 years. He has a short fuse. He will say we need to rush to get somewhere moan cos i drive carelessly or in a rush (he cant drive). He has very little concept of time but i dont think its fair to moan we are late then wonder why i am all flustered and cant as he puts "stop getting stressy." he just flares up and im fed up with it tbh. But the thought of splitting up is quite terrifying. We do both get totally worn out with the kids and find it hard work, we both work. Im very passive aggressive and will roll my eyes or just says things will be fine which i think is quite grating. He has just had an awful personal tragedy so is not himself but i dread weekends cos i know i will piss him off over something. Hes quite OCD and worries about sell by dates etc and hygiene wheras im much more blase.
The most annoying thing is he will not talk. If i ever trt to talk about a falling out and try to come up with a way to resolve something so we can avoid it happeninb again i get told "im bringing it all up again." how the hell are things meant to change??