Advice needed :(

[katekavanagh]

Im Not sure what to do about my best friend.
We have been friends for 10+ years but ,as she
Moved to another city 50 miles away only been back in
Contact for the past 2 through FB etc but we used to
Text and call most days etc.
Now I hardly ever hear from her as she has met an amazing (apparently) man on pof ...

Some back ground info: she's late 40s I'm early 30s
She's been single a year ,and before that has been having an affair with a married man for a few years.
I'm single and have been since last year when broke up
With long term partner and have one child.
We both have dabbled with od her generally having
More dates than myself .

Not sure whether to try contact her tbh as last time
I saw her some of her comments have kind of stung
As she often says things like "poor you" which is in relation to when she asks if I'm having any dates which I'm not as I've not found any one I've clicked with .

She's been quite boastful ,has revealed intimate details
On his fabulous performance in bed,his size , his income (higher than average) and to top it off he's paying for a holiday Abroad for her.

I can't really say anything though as surely it's going to
Look like sour grapes but it leaves me wondering
If she actually ever was a genuine friend as I get the feeling she's trying to filter me out ifyswim ...

The guy has a single friend and I've asked her to pass my number to him and FB photo ,but I get the feeling she is scared to as she is always petrified that blokes are going to dump her as she doesn't usually get past 2nd date tbh .

Wwyd? Any advice appreciated x

She's toxic by the sound of it. Does she enhance your life in any way? If not then get rid.

We did have other stuff in common ,we liked doing the
Same things ,had a similar out look ,we'd spend hours
Talking etc ...
I suppose now she doesn't actually bring anything positive
As we don't speak as much and when we last did she was full of herself .
This is a genuine post btw ,and I'm not desperate for a man
If I was I'd have gone for just any bloke,I'm not short of offers ,I'm waiting for the right one.

I don't understand what the issue is.

You think she thinks she is better than you at getting a man. You say not. No issue then.

She sounds like one of those irritating middle-aged women who are still acting like silly teenagers. :) Dropping your best friend for a bloke is really bad form however old you happen to be. If you've been friends 10 years that means she was late thirties and you early twenties? Do you think it's one of those friendships where you're just meant to admire her rather than examine anything too closely?

Yes she is very teenagerish cogito.
She doesn't have many friends her own age ,
Maybe two .
I'm asking is it worth continuing being her friend ,
More of a wwyd ?
I don't doubt that she isn't better than me because she has
A bloke ,Im not that Insecure