Do I go alone?

[MissesBradleyCooper]

DP and I are supposed to be going to a nearby 5* hotel And spa today until tomorrow. It has been booked for weeks. We have two DC under 3, I work full time, and go to college 2 nights a week and i have not had a night off in months.
"D"P went out yesterday afternoon, came home drunk, admitted bed sniffed cocaine so couldn't sleep and then he went back out again. I've just phoned him and he's still drunk.
What do I do? My dad is due to pick the kids up in a couple of hours. Do I go to the hotel alone? Should I tell my dad? My dad will go nuts. DP has form for this kind of thing. We broke up for a year because of this kind of behaviour ffs.

Please decide for yourself. I say that, not to be unhelpful, but because I think you need to make this decision for reasons of self-development and self-respect. Whatever you decide it has to be what you want and not because your Dad would go mad, your kids would miss him, or because a bunch of strangers on the internet are pushing you in a particular direction. It's a crossroads in your life and it is your call....

Cogito..

That needs to be on the small print of nearly every thread answer.

The enormity of what MissesBC is going through deserves a moment of pause and sometimes the (albiet well intentioned) advice can be a burden in itself.

Good luck OP.

If - like a lot people who end up on these boards - the OP had decided to end the relationship and was simply looking for reassurance that they'd made the right call or practical support, I would be right behind them. But my concern is that they are taking everyone else's view into account, being influenced by fears of various outcomes (Dad going nuts, kids not coping) and, as a result, pushing their own feelings and needs well down the list of priorities. So I don't think 'pause' should be the response to every thread or even this thread but I do think they should put themselves #1 now... everyone else will manage.