Hi, first time poster here. I met my partner 6 months ago and everything has been idyllic. We had a big argument over the weekend which meant that i felt like things were over and done with. He kept begging for me back but when we got home and he must have had a few drinks alone and got drunk and was really rude to me. The following day he was hungover and when i said things werent working, he got more aggressive/shouting at me, saying f*ing this and that and that he wouldnt leave the house unless i made him. Then he drunk more during the day and when i went upstairs, we had a shouting match, i slapped him and he provoked me by talking about my ex who he has always been jealous of, i said he was always going to be alone, and he reacted by pushing me aside and i fell on the floor.
In the evening, he had sobered up and was completely apologetic about it all and begging for me back however i just couldnt put out of my mind how angry he had been.
In my heart, i do feel like its a one off as he has never shown me signs of this. His children from a previous relationship adore him, and his ex doesnt seem to hate him. He has hardly drunk with me at all so ive never seen him drunk. Normally he is just a bit tipsy happy. However i just cant get over how hard he looked when he was angry, it was frightening to see as im such a sensitive person and im 'lucky' enough to have never had an experience like this in the past.
I keep reading about abusive relationships and they all say this is how it starts but when is something just a one off/genuine argument and when is it something more?