What's wrong??

[calebsmum]

Am in such a frump at the moment! DS is 15mths old and me and DP have been together just over 5 years. Recently everything he does annoys me, if he tries to hug or kiss me I just want to push him away. As for sex, what sex?! I'd be quite happy to only have sex once or twice a year, when DP does get 'affectionate' I just roll over saying i'm tired, I tried to put in some effort last night, but in the back of my mind I was thinking come on get on with it, that's that done for another month. We are also arguing all the time. I still want to be with DP but I just can't explain how i'm feeling at the moment.

Sorry if not of that made sense, am just rambling but is anyone going through this??

I feel like that sometimes, kind of stuck in a rut. I love DH very much, but we have to make more effort than we used to!

sounds trivial, but I feel better when I put on my best clothes, slap on the make up etc even if I'm going nowhere! Makes me feel more than Mummy, IYKWIM.

Try having a regular special evening when DS has gone to bed - nice meal/takeaway, bottle of wine, bath together, whatever!

I know, keep asking myself 'am I in love with him, or do i just love him??'. I feel uncomfortable with the though of us being intimate together as well {sad}

r u my calebs mummy?

sorry if ur not, but if u r i will pop my msn on in a sec 4 u x

Hi, think there's also a calebsmom! sorry wrong caleb :)

poor you. I went through a really bad time with my hubby wneh my dd1 was about 18 mths and we had been married for 5 years. I could barely be in the same room as him for a while back there.We rarely ha sex, I had no energy and we rowed all the time. I DONT reccommend this, but I got pregnant - we had sex so rarely I know exactly when....and somehow it saved us. I really love him now, we like each other and really have fun most of the time. We have 4 kids and have been married 13 years. Bizarre cos I was soooo close to leaving him!

ok, sorry to confuse u, didn't want to offer advise if u were the wrong one!

Just read through and realised this is not much helpr advice. I think I was very lonely at the time, over caught up in our dd1 and suffering from having given up work and having no validation outside the home etc.

Sounds alot like me apronstrings, would love another baby but

A. It means having to have sex!
B. We have no Money
C. I'm so tired!!

i feel like that too sometimes calebs. but the thought of being with anyone else is even more revolting. I think I'm just exhausted all the time, and resent the fact he swans around doing what he likes most of the time

i really think tiredness and/ or depression can have a lot to do with it. Also it helps to remember that relationships have good and not so good times as well as bloody awful ones. Try and enjoy moments togeter first...rather than aiming for all round happiness. If the sexual thing was there i'm sure it comes back when the other things in the relationship like money, jobs, etc are less stressful. I think its interesting that you
mentioed money because at that worst of times in our marriage we were absolutely skint - barely pay the mortgage skint - depts were going up and it just adds a HUGE quantity of anxiety to your life - which is easiest taken out on the person we are closest to, and completely dampens (my)sexual ardour