Rubbish situation:(

[mrsericnorthmaniwish]

I have posted a few times and am now just after someone to hold my hand:( I filed for divorce few weeks ago and things have been getting worse since. Don't get me wrong i know it's a horrible thing to do but I have my reasons,3dcs to consider so its not something I did lightly. We are living in the marital home that I now know belongs to someone else in his family. My solicitor is legal aid and not brilliant while he is paying and is busy hiding anything he does have and accusing me of trying to hide my assets(I have none,he has hidden his however))he has convinced himself I have someone else(I don't)everyone has told him that he is better off without me and he has also told me I am 'mental' for going through with this:( it's rubbish,I have been unhappy for a long time and finally can't do it anymore so have made my decision,he has had many opportunities and I have given him plenty of chances to change things but to no avail, now I am done:( any advice or words of wisdom appreciated. Thanks for reading

Hi mrseric, no advice I'm afraid apart from stop thinking of getting the divorce as a "horrible thing to do". It must be the right choice for you, and you have said you didn't choose it lightly. Hope things start to go more smoothly soon.

mrseric same here, not advice but you are being courageous and although it is painful and messy you are doing the right thing.His attitude says it all. You are doing the right thing. Sending love and strength

Hi Mrseric, I think I remember your earlier thread - you discovered that your husband was in some kind of legal co-ownership of the family home without your knowledge, right? And now he's busy hiding his assets to reduce the divorce settlement. Nice. I know little of legal matters - is it possible to hire a decent lawyer who will defend your interests and defer payment until after the settlement? Or try a different legal aid lawyer (if you can get one - legal aid gas stopped for non-DV divorces now, hasn't it) who you have faith in.

Thank you,yes walkaccrossthesand, that's me. Another solicitor is not an option as I just don't have the funds:( thing is I don't want anything he has anyway, not now, I just want to move on with dcs and be happy. He seems to be determined to take the little I have that's mine away:(

I remember your earlier thread :(

It is awful and it probably wont get any better until it is over. But it will come to an end and you will be much happier. Hang on to that thought and keep going.

OP - there are some divorce lawyers who will postpone payment until there is a financial settlement. Don't think of it as 'not wanting anything of his' - think of it as getting money/clothes/food for the DC and their future.

Thank you for your words:) he is so worried I am going to take money from him. Thing is its not about money,I am unhappy and I will manage without his help