This is my conclusion, after yet another near miss disaster. Met a man on match ( paid site, should be more serious about a relationship, according to some) Got chatting, date arranged for this saturday.
Few things came up that made me go 
, like job, various hobbies and certain attitudes. Told by friends in real life, both male and female, to stop making a drama out of something that isnt there, and to give him a chance.
He started to get overly keen, and again, friends tell me its just that he likes me.. So i try to ignore the now red flags flapping in the breeze.
Few probing questions, and a bit of googling and i come up with no less than 12 fb accounts, all where hes friends with himself, some profiles hes listed as married, he doesnt work, has an overdosing ex who hes still heavily involved with, children he doesnt see nor support and a ton of weird hobbies and madcap schemes that he thinks will make him rich.
Ive cancelled the date, obviously. Its rubbish that people are never what they appear. friends say its me, and then are dumbfounded everytime something weird like this happens.