My mum's homeless again..

[BeckyBrandon]

She's an alcoholic. She moved in with a man for a month, no idea who he is, she wouldn't tell me or tell me where she is living. Policeman was banging on my door on sunday saying they had a call from her saying she had been abused, he wanted to know where she was as she stopped answering her phone. I tried to call her but she didn't answer. Later that day I called again and the policeman had found her, he asked if she could stay with me, but I had to say no.

Fast forward to today and she's just got in contact with me saying she's at hospital and she's homeless, hasn't eaten for days, Wants to stay with me for a few days, when I said no she has started begging and then eventually asked for me to pick her up and drop her at a homeless shelter, but I've said no to that as well because I know she will refuse to get out the car when I get there.

What do I do? I don't know if I should help or not. I always feel like this, I just need someone else to tell me what to do or something

Also, the homeless shelter won't accept her back for months because she got drunk there and evicted.

You can't help her. She needs to fend for herself. She got kicked out of the shelter because she got drunk.

She would just come and get drunk at yours.

Stay strong. Easier said than done I know.

Unfortunately you can't take care and be responsible for someone who doesn't want to care and responsibility for themselves.

You sound like you're constantly stuck between a rock and a hard place, but there comes a point (and it seems like you've reached it) where you have to start putting you first. It's not selfish, and I think you're doing the right thing and I think you're really strong for doing it.

*responsible

I know I need to essentially cut her off, But I am the ONLY person she has. She has not 1 single friend or family member left that will talk to her. It's tragic because my father was abusive which is what i think led her to drink all those years ago.

It just feels like life has been so unkind to her.

I worry that if I cut her off completely she will try and kill herself. She's tried before.

You don't have to cut her off completely (unless you want to)

You do need to keep on saying no.

"I love you but I can't pick you up anymore"

There are other agencies who will try as help her, give her shelters number and stay strong.