Feuding families ..full of hate after mum died

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Hi ...it's the 1st anniversary of my mums death next month ..haven't spoken to any of my family since the day of her funeral when I was thrown out the house ...I won't ever forgive or forget what they done too me.... Never even seen her final resting place ...feel nothing but hate for them ..wish them nothing but ill will and unhappiness ...will it ever ease ?

Hi, sorry no real advise for you, hopefully someone will come along with advise soon, but I do understand a feel for you as I had a similar experience (was excluded from Dads funeral) and his 1st anniversary is in Aug.
I do feel people show the real them and you can really tell who is there for you in these tough times.

Hi My son died nearly five years ago, my Mum started 'blanking' me a few days later, apparently i wasn't grieving how she thought i should, a few months later my sister cut off contact with me as she couldn't cope with the situation between me and my mum. After my son's sudden death i was left with all sorts of problems, including many phobias and panic attacks. Seeing my Mum just reminded me of of how i felt when she wouldn't speak or see me.

Since then other relatives have told me, the problems me and i just argue, except theres never been any arguments since my son's death, i just havn't had any energy to argue, just getting through life is hard enough.

Think tooawesomeforausername is right, bereavement brings out the real them, the good and bad in people.

Sending you hugs, my Dad died 8 years ago, its so hard xx

Wow Joy5 that's shocking
So sorry for both your loses x

So sorry for your losses. Maybe a bit of background could help mumsnetters help/advise you of their similar stories? X

Death brings out the worst in some people. My DFathers family almost imploded after his father died, and once his mother goes I'm half expecting world war 3 to break out. And my DM totally resents her SiL for her (totally blamesless) actions after her mother died.

Sorry for all your losses.

So sorry for your losses, all of you.

I don't know how to advise on the family side of things, but do you know where your mum was laid to rest? Would it help you to visit her?