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Worn out

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Drhamsterstortoise · 25/06/2013 12:18

I just feel deflated today.I'm worn out from
Arguments and tears.Myself and dd decided to throw a little party to wish dp good luck in an upcoming event.We spent the afternoon baking.He didn't even say thank you.He snapped ar me for not engaging in a conversation about current affairs and for starting a conversation about something 'stupid'.I hadn't realised he wanted a conversation about it.He went off for an hour and didn't offer to help with the dishes.If he cooks I clean and vice versa.Spoke to him about it last night.Said he feels deflated too as I behave like I don't even like him anymore.This morning he lay in bed looking at his phone while I looked after the girls.Made a start on the dishes and then thought 'no' and went in and told him to do it.He looked at me in disgust and then went and did it but made sure to let me know he wasn't happy about it.I just feel that this relationship is all about him.There is no romance, no thoughtfulness.I just feel sad.

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chocoreturns · 25/06/2013 14:17

I'm so sorry, I don't know what to say but I didn't want to read and run. This sounds horrible for you all.

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Drhamsterstortoise · 25/06/2013 14:29

It just seems so silly really...all this arguing over minor issues.Life is good in general.I just think we should be kind to each other

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Drhamsterstortoise · 25/06/2013 14:29

Thanks for the tea!

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HotDAMNlifeisgood · 25/06/2013 14:57

I'm not surprised you feel worn out. Sounds like he behaves in such a way as to sap any joy from the household.

I'm not impressed that he couldn't muster gratitude for the surprise you and DD prepared for him, and called your topic of conversation "stupid". And he neatly deflected your attempted discussion about how you are feeling by making it all about him.

Any chance that he will acknowledge your feelings if you try again?

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Drhamsterstortoise · 25/06/2013 15:10

He is going away for a week.I know he will want to make up tonight.But I can see it happening again and again down the line.I have suggested couples counselling.He is not overly excited about it but said if we do it he wants to choose the counsellor ???Fine but don't see what difference it makes.Looking forward to the break and head space this week

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HotDAMNlifeisgood · 25/06/2013 16:03

But I can see it happening again and again down the line.

Is this the life you want for yourself?

Looking forward to the break and head space this week

What does this tell you?

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