DP and I met in July of last year after messaging back and forth through plenty of fish (dating site). From the first meet we were hooked on one another, made excuses to meet up, saw each other every weekend - fell in love quickly (I thought we both had, turns out it was just me :-( ) and slept together - in fact we spent many nights just making love all night. As sickly sweet as that sounds, it was like a fairytale romance for me. In the pub one night we decided we were exclusive and wanted a future together. For me - all this was very, very real. He told me it was for him too.
Then in the September I went on holiday for a week and he went to a festival. I remember arriving at my hotel and texting him to let him know I'd arrived safely. I received no reply. Next day - nothing from him either so I text asking how the festival was. No reply. I got nothing from him for 4 days and I was gutted. It really ruined my holiday as I could think of nothing else. I assumed I'd been dumped and I was heartbroken.... on holiday, trying to put on a brave face. I finally received a text off him to say the festival was amazing but he'd been too busy to text. I was upset that he couldn't even send me one text but I let it go, just glad to hear from him.
So I got back - we met up again, things went back to normal, we were meeting up all the time, spending lots of time together etc. I thought everything was great.
Well, today I've come across some archived facebook messages dating back to around that time - the weeks after we first met and were walking hand in hand down the beach and I was thinking he was the one - he was messaging women on facebook from dating sites chatting away, going on about meeting up for coffees etc etc. I let it go - since we'd only been together a couple of weeks but then I found messages from September when I was on holiday fretting about him, searching for the perfect gift for him, hanging by my phone waiting for a text --- he was messaging other women things like "how is the dating going? I've not been on pof for a while." and "really? sounds good - you'll have to cook that for me one day :-) ) and "still no luck on the dating front, why are you offering? lol"
Absolutely gutted. I know it was early days for us but for fucks sake he totally lied to me. He said we were exclusive, that he wanted a future with me, that he'd missed me whilst I was on holiday, that I was everything he'd been looking for --- and all along I was nothing to him at that point was I? just something to shag on a weekend whilst the search for miss right continued.
We're still together, he has no idea I've found this stuff. I feel so gutted. Like the beginning of our relationship was a lie, just a joke to him. Can't believe he'd do that to me.