Only been living together a few weeks but he's changed and it's worrying me so much because I can't help thinking he's gone off me or has realised he's made a mistake. Since moving in together we never spend any time together, he's always "busy" doing something and when he's not busy he's on his computer. For the first few weeks I spent every evening sat in front of the TV on my own and I started feeling down and lonely. I brought it up with him and he said "on Friday, we'll sit and watch a movie with a glass of wine" - I specifically cancelled a night out I had planned to do this as I thought we needed the quality time together. Friday night arrived and it was 9pm and he was still "Busy". I said "shall I pour the wine then?" and he said "yes, pour me a glass and I'll be with you in 5 minutes." I drank two glasses by myself before he turned up, sat with me for 10 minutes and then buggered off taking his wine with him to the computer room! I went to bed at 10.30 - he came to bed at 1am. The next morning I told him I was upset that we were not spending any quality time together in an evening, I understand he's busy doing house improvements but does he really need to be doing them until midnight every night? He agreed and said he'd make more of an effort to spend time with me in an evening. I said it wasn't just that - it was also the fact that he's constantly tired (well, too tired for me) yet he chooses to work 7 days a week (he only has to work 5) plus he doesn't come to bed until silly hours of the morning - we've not had sex in weeks. Again he agreed and said he'd make more effort.
So last night, it's getting on for 10pm and he comes into the living room, sits on the sofa opposite me (he never used to do this, he would always sit with me and we'd snuggle in front of the tv) and switches on a shit film without even asking me what I'd like to watch. He sits there for 20 minutes and then buggers off into the computer room again. I give him an hour or so, realise he's not coming back so go and tell him I'm going to bed. He looks at me, says nothing but holds his arms out for a hug. Guilty conscience? I get into bed then I hear the doors being locked downstairs and think "great, he's taken the hint and is coming to bed". He did come to bed - armed with the ipad which he then switches on in bed and tells me "I'm going to play candy crush for a bit, do you mind?" In other words he'll play candy crush until he's tired enough to sleep. Then he wondered why I got upset.
Candy Crush vs having sex with your girlfriend .... hmm tough decision. Nice to know where I stand. Am I being unreasonable? clingy? high maintenance? Does he just need to develop the balls to tell me he's made a mistake?