Okay- need some perspective please (nc'd)
Ex met new woman (year since split and other girlfriends before this one- as well as during the marriage but hey). He stayed over there with her two teens and 5yr old after a week and our kids (2 primary and one secondary aged) met her for a day out without her kids four months later and they've met her and her littlest DC once more since then.
He's been living with his parents as well as staying at hers and now he's told me he's moving in. He only has kids randomly during day times and is now proposing they can stay over at new woman's. It's a tiny three bed with three kids in already in the most notorious road in town with regular criminal activity and one google searh showed an 11yr old recently mugged down the road.
I'm not comfortable with my three staying over there on camp beds on the floor with no space of their own and not even their dad to themselves. Apparently I'm being unreasonable. He lets me down at the drop of a hat if he wants to get at me and doesn't want to have the kids with more than a day's notice in case I get free childcare for work or 'social life'.
His parents are happy for him to have them there as usual but he refuses once he's moved in to hers. Not sure what to feel or do tbh. It really is the shittiest of shit areas with no space at all and they have plenty of room here and I'm not sure what they would gain by sleeping on his girlfriend's floor every now and then when he can spare a minute.
Thoughts- gently, are appreciated?