Can someone make me feel better please?

[Notcontent]

I posted only a few days ago about my exH who while not the worst man in the world, causes me tremendous stress by making plans to do with my dd without consulting me.

Well, tonight I just feel terrible. Basically, I thought we had agreed some dates for him to take her away over the summer. He wanted to take her away for longer but we compromised. Anyway, I have asked whether he has booked the tickets and he keeps avading me. I have a bad feeling he has booked the time he wanted too and will not tell me until the last minute. Tonight I have emailed him but he has not replied - he is normally glued to blackberry...

This may sound petty but he has in the past done this kind of thing. Like not seeing her for months and then deciding to take her away for Xmas without consulting me.

Anyway, I just have that horrible stressed feeling now, churning stomach, feeling a bit shivery - you know that feeling. I used to feel like that constantly in the first months of dealing with him leaving - and now years later I am still feeling like that.

Do you have anything booked for the holidays, if you have, text him and say that these are the dates you are going away so that he knows not to double book. If you haven't booked anything yet and you can afford it, get on to it now. Tell him, since he hasn't made definite plans that you have gone ahead yourself. Don't wait for him, take charge and tell him what's happening. Good luck.

Deste - yes, I was thinking along those lines too!
I already have something booked for a little later, but have told him I also have some activities booked for dd (which is true).
She is supposed to go for two weeks - which is already longer than she has ever been away from me - and I don't want her gone for longer.