Hi,
I will try and be brief.
Dh and have been together 20 years and have 3 dcs.
We had been having ups and downs and about 10 weeks ago things came to a head resulting in him threatening to leave and me telling him to fuck off then. He left that night at my insistance.
He was gone for a week and I missed him terribly but held out until he begged to come home, pleading that he would change and be the man that I deserved. I laid down some ground rules and he committed to them totally, or said he would. I told him that it would be forever and that if he couln't committ completely to the rules, then not to come back and we would divorce.
Last night we were supposed to go out after dropping dd1 at her hobby. He suggested this and wanted to talk as issues around him not putting me first were creeping back into our relationship. All well and good. However, he was late in and as a result, I had to take dd1 by myself. I was pissed off but not his fault.
The bit that pissed me off is this. he then rang to say he would be going out with a friend. I had hoped he would want to go out with me when I got back home, but no. The friend came first.
He didn't come in until 3pm, then slept downstairs which is another thing I have asked him not to do.
I deliberately went out today with a friend even though I had said we would all go to a bbq.
I am seething.
He hasn't tried to contact me all day.
He has lots of freedom, he was away 4 days last week with his mates.
He has also gone abroard this year with mates, which he has agreed will not happen again.
Can he change?
Why can't he put me first. That was a condition of us staying married, we put each other and the dcs first.
He has acknowledged that he feels loved and wanted by me, yet he has made me feel worthless.
Sorry for the long post.