Can someone help me make sense of this please

[puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE]

I have been single for a while now, but recently met someone I like. I'm not very good at ready signals and interpreting peoples feelings towards me so I was hoping someone would be able to help.

The person in question has told me that he really likes me, but I don't know if this is in a friendship capacity or more. We were talking the other day about relationships, and he said he hopes I find someone soon. Now i'm confused because I thought he liked me, and wouldn't this have been a good time to say so?

He did say he is very shy, and finds it hard to meet women, so I don't know if this is why. I have told him that I like him, but then I'm not sure if he is thinking I mean it in a friend kind of way.

I know this all sounds a bit daft, but I'm very confused at the moment.

Any help would be great

I think in real terms he's telling you he's attracted to you.

When he said that he hopes you find someone soon, that's probably one of the biggest hints he could give.

Just ask him if he's ever going to ask you out or has he been waiting for you to ask him. That should break the ice.

Good luck and let us know how it goes, please? yes I'm nosey

Yep, from a blokes point of view, it seems very likely he's into you. Saying he really likes you is a strong indicator, we only usually say that when we fancy someone. I like Barack Obama, but I don't really like him.

And saying he hopes you find someone soon, probably means 'hopefully him' but you haven't given strong enough signals to him to ask you out.

Either one of those by itself may not be strong enough, both together is fairly telling.

Ask him out. Or tell him to ask you out if you're old fashioned.

I gave up on 'signals' and interpretation a long time ago :) Far too much like hard work. If you like the guy and he's a bit slow, take a punt rather than waiting for him. When he said 'I hope you find someone soon' for example... you could have easily responded with 'I thought I had. So where shall we go on a date?' Take the lead and good luck

Feegle, I felt the "hope you find someone soon" thing was the one fly in this ointment, but then I'm crap at reading signals from men, too!

puds, I'm not usually one to advocate texting to communicate anything more than chat, but in this case it might be a good idea to text him "What would you say if I was to ask you out on a date?"

I feel for you, and yes, let us know what happens because I'm nosey, too

He was definitely testing the water with that comment.

I think texting is your best option and you could say......
'I've been thinking about your comment and I've drawn up a list of qualities I would like in a man .......' and then list his qualities and end with the question
'So do you know anyone who fits this description who might ask me out on a date?'
Good luck

Just ask him. Easier said than done i know, but i agree you could text. Even tell him you feel an utter numpty but you like him.more than just friends and how does he feel? Good luck!

Invite him out for a drink or round for dinner and a DVD:)

Puds, what did you say when he said "I really like you"? Did you basically say something that he could have taken as a knock-back? That would explain why the "I hope you find someone soon" comment.

I think he's asked you out and thinks you've said no!

Thanks for the replies. When he said he liked me I told him that I liked him too. He said it twice, I said it once.

The only thing I think that may have given him reason for the comment he made is I accidentally said I hadn't met anyone yet, but I thought because I told him I liked him, he would have known I meant until I met him.

I hope I haven't made him think I don't like him. Maybe I'll tell him again.

PS: He is from another country, where he lives so DVD might be a struggle

So what was this then - a holiday romance? Or have you never actually met him?

I'm with Cog on this one. It's so old-fashioned to be waiting around for a bloke to make his feelings clear. Just say if you want something more than friendship. But unless one of you moves country, I can't really see how the logistics of that are going to work?

I met him on holiday. For me though a relationship with someone in another country would work as I don't think I can cope with a relationship where the person is around a lot.

So take the iniative yourself then. Say that you fancy him and would like to have more than a friendship.

But I'm super shy and scared of rejection! This is doomed to fail isn't it

He might be just the same though. Why should it be him that makes the first move?

I do understand why you probably wouldn't ask someone out unless you're fairly certain of a 'yes' from the signals the person's been giving, but he does seem to be giving those signals and tbh, if he said 'no' that could be as much to do with the distance thing as anything. Be brave!

Ok, thanks badinage I will try and be brave, and if I feel the conversation is moving into this subject area I will tell him I like him.

I will report back to MN when I have a clear answer, however I may be back in the meantime if more confusing signals appear

A quick update for those who are interested!

I told him again that I liked him, he said it back.

About a week later he booked tickets to come and see me.

So he will visiting me soon and I am over the moon, excited, but very nervous

There you go. A little courage paid off. Hope the visit goes well.

Thanks cogito I'm so glad I put myself out there

So happy for you OP.

What do I get for winning?

Good luck!

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Good luck op

Thanks guys

You get Feegle

Chin chin