Dream job - but would mean working with partner! WWYD?

[financialnightmare]

I work in an unusual field and there are very few jobs in my field that come up. One has just been advertised - but I'd be working in the same department as my boyfriend, who I've been seeing for just over a year.

At the moment I'm temping - but for a good company who have offered me permanent work.

Should I go for the job, and work with my boyfriend? Or stick with the safe dull job and keep my work/home life separate?

WWYD?

Could be OK but could be a nightmare for those working with you.

Only you know what it would be like to work with him.

I wouldn't do it. Me and my DH would kill each other.

With much initial misgiving, I ran a business with my DH. Misgivings because we couldn't even decorate a room without falling out. But it was brilliant - because we treated each other as colleagues and didn't tread on each other's toes.

I would go for it, but set mutual ground rules first.

Hmm, not sure. DH and I met through work and swore we wouldn't work for the same company again.

OTOH if you don't take it you might end up resenting him for being the reason you didn't take your dream job

[helpful]

It can work but it can be tricky. I was for 4 years the office manager at a business my husband was the director of and now I do freelance work for him on an as and when required basis.

you HAVE to be able to compartmentalise. That means no bringing personal gripes into work and no carrying work differences into the home.

eg - my husband hauled me over the coals (rightly!) and basically threatened to fire me and then we went home and watched tv.

You have GOT to be able to switch between the two and to really accept that any personal differences don't affect work and any professional differences have got bog all to do with how much you love each other.

So I'd say sit down together, identify all the possible problems and agree how you are going to behave.

And stick to it

Hecsy - sounds like a similar situation!

We have worked together in the past a long time ago and it was ok.

I lolled at 'ditch the boyfriend'

Thanks for your thoughts/experiences.