I've been separated from my STBXH for 3 years and we have both moved on. He has a new partner, as do I.
I asked him on Wednesday whether we could swap our weekends as I want to take my daughter to an event that she would love for her birthday treat and it falls on the weekend that he has them. When I asked him, he said "no problem" so I booked the tickets.
Yesterday, I received an email from his girlfriend telling me that they can't swap the children because this falls on the weekend that she has her daughter and she can't rearrange it and that I must not ask to swap weekends around because I originally said we should try to stick to the weekends arranged.
I did indeed say that having covered their arses when they went to the Phillipines, Majorca, Singapore, Reading Festival, a concert and when my STBXH was in hospital twice last year and when he was too ill to have their children immediately after.
I honestly cannot see why they cant have her daughter and his/our children there together as a one off. They do live in a flat but they can all bunk in together, no? The kids get along though I agree it would be hard work if they were all there every time they visit.
Anyway, I have never asked to swap weekends before or for them to help out beyond the minimum and considering everything I have done to be flexible I think on this one occasion they could just say yes and not be so negative.
The upshot is, after a mile long email from STBXHs GF with her tail of woe and detailed explanation about her stress and this that and the other, I just replied:
Thanks.
Probably not the response she wanted but she is a moody cow and I couldnt be arsed to enter into a dialogue about it.
What would you say?