At breaking point...

[jammiedodger79]

Have an 8 month old baby and am married to the most self centred selfish piece of shit ever. I am currently working my notice at work, I have 5 weeks left. When I'm at work DH looks after DS. I have nobody else here, am due to move back home near family as soon as I finish my 5 weeks. DH has informed me this morning that he hates me, hates the sound of my voice and cannot wait to divorce me. I am surviving on 2-3 hours sleep a night, am feeling like I'm headed for some sort of breakdown. I cannot survive another 5 isolated weeks with this man. Do you think the Dr will sign me off work for the remaining leave so I can escape? I love my job and am proud of the fact I'm never off sick and part of me is annoyed that its come to this but I need to put myself first right? Any advice would be welcome on either getting away or surviving the next few weeks!

Think you need to keep your job for some security.
He sounds awful....

I think a dr would most certainly sign you off. It must be extremely stressful and surviving on so little sleep will affect your health.

Get yourself an appointment and get away ASAP

Good luck to you x

Go and talk to the doctor it can't hurt. For what it's worth hugs though. I lived with someone where I just had to get out. If that's what you need just do it x

Thanks for your replies, I am applying for new jobs and don't want it to affect that but at the same time don't feel I can physically drag myself to work either. I look and feel a complete mess. I will go to the Dr today and see what they can do. I need to break away, the thought of another 5 weeks of this makes me feel physically sick.

I agree. See the doctor and get signed off.

Go and be with people who love you ((hugs))

Thank you! I did it, am on the train home with DS and DH kindly informed me as I left that maybe one day he will stop hating me. How lovely of him. Thanks again for the responses it does help :) x

You did the right thing. It is utterly demoralising and depressing living with someone you know does not care about you.

Are you going to start divorce proceedings?

I think it's definatly headed that way. Need a good rest first it's been exhausting in every way but got a much better perspective of things being out of the situation, just feel sorry for DS he knows something is wrong bless him but its for the best all round x

Well done! You are putting yourself and your baby first, I really admire you. You are a great example to anyone going through the same situation. Hopefully you will get some sleep which will give you some energy to enjoy life with your little boy. Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you.

Well done! You are putting yourself and your baby first, I really admire you. You are a great example to anyone going through the same situation. Hopefully you will get some sleep which will give you some energy to enjoy life with your little boy. Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you.

Thanks alot for the encouragement, feeling pretty numb right now but am determined to stick to my guns, the limit has been reached!

Good for you, enjoy your little boy and your freedom.wishing you the very best.

While you are away, get some legal advice and file for divorce. You can't have an 'amicable, no-lawyers' divorce with a man who has shown himself to be selfish, unkind and untrustworthy. Good luck.

Just read your old thread....

Well done!! I'm sure the last 9 months have been very difficult, but you are now firmly back in control. Best of luck to you.xxx

and (and a for DS)