Emotional Affair vs School girl Crush

[saltbella]

Hi,

I have been loking at various signs of being an emotional affair etc, and I still can't decide, how do you tell if you/someone are in an emotional affair or just has a crush on someone irl? What is the difference?

Another rule is "no texts/emails/messages/conversations which you would not be happy for primary partner to read/hear in full

thank you obviously you are all right.

today he said some things which made me sure it is not all in my head, it just seems somedays things are normal and above board and then other days weird comments pop up.

i wasnt looking for a justification i was genuinely confused as the om you wouldnt expect it, talks a lot about religion and stuff....

How are you feeling saltbella? Did you have problems/unhappiness with your DH before this happened with OM? I know from experience how difficult this can be- If it has developed from a deep friendship to something else, and you're forced to cut contact with OM, you're going to miss the connection/talking. But the right thing is to be kind to your DH, and that may well mean having to assess your relationship and ask why you connected with this OM.

I know someone who had a secret fb account that they mainly chatted to a work friend on from their long term partner and mother of their children. They helped the work friend get promoted and did work on the computer for them in the evening. They went into work early to buy the work friend breakfast and to chat. They bought the work mate sweets, drinking chocolate and lent them their laptop. They revealed personal information about their partner to the work friend. They lied and laughed about being caught with their work friend by their life partner. They commentated on their work mates appearance hair, makeup, dresses. They offered their work mate hugs if they seemed upset and shared music and films with them. On work do's work colleagues would sit them with each other.
Basically there is line and if you cross it by secrets and lies or hiding stuff you will be caught out and you will both suffer hurt. How far do you want to cross that line?