Aibu re DH?

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Last night dh and I were talking being silly etc, and he was saying that the brunette from the blurred lines video was attractive. I got jealous (am currently 31+2 pg, have a toddler and work FT and don feel attractive in the slightest anymore), and said " do ou wish you married her instead of me?" Fully expecting him to say " don't be silly, love you, reassurance etc etc", instead he bluntl said " no because then I wouldn't hav dc".

I know it silly but I reall put me out. I feel like a breeding machine, he saw my face looking hurt and said "oh you know what I mean".

Didn't have an arguement but I feel upset, am I being hormonal and unreasonable?

Yes. Go and have a nice cup of tea and some toast.

Seriously, you could equally read it as him extolling your value as a mother and true partner against the transient attractions of a pretty girl in a video.

Yanbu! Foot on mouth syndrome I think. But I would be hurt as well pregnant or not!

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Perhaps not the most tactful thing to tell you he found her attractive but it is allowed.

Is he a good partner otherwise?

I'd be hurt by that too. You aren't a sodding incubator.

However, most men people are pretty dense make mistakes and should be shot forgiven :)

What Chipping didn't say.

I think you may be being a little bit over-sensitive. But you're allowed, you're pregnant!

(though, I think if you don't like the answers, maybe avoid that type of question in future)

Thank you all..I thought I was being unreasonable but still it was an insensitive thing for him to say.

I'll try to lighten up a bit.

Yes otherwise he's a good husband and father, think maybe its the pregnancy hormones that doesn't help...I feel like a creaky old whale and can't remember what being attractive felt like!

I would be a bit hurt too.
I hope he understood that he hurt you.
If it happens again, I'd ask him what he meant by that. No need for an argument, but to clarify what he feels and how such things make me feel.

I actually did talk to dh about it today.. No argument but I said obviously its normal to.fancy celebs etc but that wasnt what offended ne, it was the implicationthat all I was to him was dc mother. He said he didnt mean it that way at all and felt very sorry it came out like that.

Still feel hugely unattractive but at least he didnt mean it

Definitely foot in mouth syndrome! (She is really, really, ridiculously good-looking though)

She's ridiculously pretty!