Boyfriend on pof

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I've been seeing a guy 6 months really liked him found at weekend he's gone back on pof where we met !!
He said it was for a bet at work and that he sent me a text when he'd done his profile for the bet but I didn't receive it .
It killed me he was on there I asked him to delete he said he didn't want to look boring at work as he's the new guy .
It's over I'm gutted so upset that's it really I feel shit and need some sense talking into me please

The only sense you need to be given is an affirmation that he's lying to you.

This wasn't a bet. There was no text. He was back on there to meet other women and that's why he wouldn't delete his profile.

Thanks I think I know that but it doesn't make it any easier I so wanted to believe him and am really upset .
Why wouldn't he just say he didn't want to see me anymore before going back on there

Because he wanted to test the market before burning his bridges with you. It's a really shit way of operating, but very common I'm afraid and internet dating just makes the opportunities easier to come by.

I'm sorry you're so upset, but it's great you saw his true colours only 6 months in. It would be so much worse if you were a few years in, had kids with him and needed his money to survive.

Even his lie shows him in a terrible light, doesn't it? Who would want to be with a spineless twunt who thought that not putting profiles on a dating site would show him out as boring to his mates? That's a lie, obviously, but he can't even come up with a lie that makes him look less twunt-like. No imagination and no respect for you. He thinks you'd stay with a man who puts his laddish reputation before his relationship.

So even if you believed this pile of wank, you'd be consenting to a relationship with a sheep-like idiot who brainlessly followed the herd.

Why wouldn't he just say he didn't want to see me anymore before going back on there Because he is a monkey bars man. He won't let go of the last woman until he has a new one.

What makes it worse is that he is treating you like you're an idiot.

Oh. Not great. He's lying I am afraid. How did you find this out? Were you looking on POF?

My sister is on there and told me , he said the competition was for a week so would be ending and told me the day it would be deleted .
Who does that seriously ? He says he was single a while before meeting me perhaps that was also a lie .
I feel sick he had met my children and me his that what I don't get ?

he's gone back on pof where we first met

I bet he never deleted his profile in the first place.

What is there not to get though? He's a lying arsehole with no respect for you (or his kids).

Sorry it didn't work out this time but don't spend ages thinking about the ins and outs, he's not worth it.

I know your right , and I did wonder if a few things were right . I was in an abusive marriage and this is my first try at dating after that .
When we went out we would pay exactly half or I'd end up getting more drinks etc is this right?
Or if we took the kids out I'd always end up paying for lunch ice creams etc.
Is this right or was he just a very poor guy all round ?

Sorry but he was a right arse too.

Anyway, let's keep positive. You've got out of an abusive marriage and given dating a try. Ok this one didn't go well but at least you spotted the signs so hopefully you'll pick up on this stuff earlier in future.

Try not to be too hard on yourself but please bin him today!!

..tight arse...

Yeah I binned him as soon as I found out .
So on my next try what can I expect to happen do folk pay for the stuff they have now a days is it all 50/50 ?
When I last dated the man would take you out etc I know times have changed though

A bet? Didn't want to look boring? Where does he work, the playground? I'm sure a simple "I've got a gf" would have set them straight. If his co workers knew about you, what impression do they have of him now.... A sly, lying, thoughtless ass!