I am skint as many of us are. When I had some spare cash I kindly stupidly/naively loaned my friend some money to pay her rent for two months. She had left a DV relationship and was getting back on her feet. Well, time has passed and she is slowly but surely back on track. Admittedly she has moments of doubt etc but she is doing really well. However, she isn't paying me back. I've told her how tight things are for me and she is always saying she will give me some money but never does. I've told her I don't mind being paid back in installments but she always says she is skint. I wouldn't mind but she has money for new clothes, new shoes, wine and treats but NEVER has money to pay me back. I don't want to push too hard because I know she has been through hell.
On a different note years after I got divorced 10 years ago I loaned my mum a few thousand pounds (part of my divorce settlement) and she still hasn't paid me back. She gives me something if I ask beg but it is never more than £150 and she makes feel incredibly guilty just for asking. The relationship I have with her is awful and I've always wanted her to like me but fail miserably at every turn. She makes me feel awful if I ask for money but loves to tell me when she's got money. She never gives me any of it. My washing machine broke recently so I have been using hers as I have no money for the launderette or to buy a new one and she keeps moaning and asking me when I'm getting a new one. The one she has is actually mine from when I had to live with her that she refuses to give back. All I want is what is mine.
Someone give me a backbone please.
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