To tell my DD to LTB

[LEMisdisappointed]

I have posted this in AIBU and told that i was, i accept that but actually, the pit of my stomach tells me otherwise

I am fuming, well beyond that really - I have The Rage!!

Its my DD1s birthday today, she is 23. She came out with us on Friday night and was out with her friends last night. She lives with her DP of five years.

So today, her birthday, he fucks off out all day with his mates (to be fair doing an organised sport thing that he takes v seriously) leaving her on her own with a promise he will be back at 3, will take her for a meal tonight - ive just spoken to her and he was home late (i think about 6.30) and is now sleeping. No birthday present.

Fucking bastard - i am so upset, have been out with DP and DD2 today, woudl have been no problem to swing by and pick DD1 up or do something with her.

This is a deal breaker isn't it??

I want her home - we don't have room really (long story) but we can make room or she can stay at my mums (around the corner) as she actally has a bedroom there. The only problem is her work, she works near where she lives (30 miles away), has to be there at stupid o clock some mornings.

I don't know what to do to help - already said too much angry

The hardest thing about being the mother of adults is standing back and letting them live their lives their way. I think many of us with adult children can empathise, but .....treating DC's as full adults means giving them the respect you would offer to any other really close friend, tempering instinctive parental reactions so you don't tell them how to live their lives.

Its a learning curve and I am sure your DD will be very forgiving of an obviously adoring Mum, but do take care OP ...... you would hate to see her posting here about a mother who won't stay out of her relationship!