single nearly 3 years how do I get back out there?

[RogueRebel]

I've been single for nearly 3years after finally leaving my abusive partner and father to my two DD's.
it was a horrible relationship and although not physically abusive it was emotionally and financial.
I lost all but one of my friends after the abuse started during my first pregnancy and wasn't even allowed to phone my mum.
I lost all my confidence and myself it seemed.
It came to a crunch when we were gstaying with my mother for the birth of my second DD on my insistence, as I refused to give birth in a foreign country.
my mum helped me see it wasn't right and two months later I managed to leave with my two DD's and the clothes on our backs.
we've come a long way since then have our own house both DD in nursery and I've just managed to take a pt job (I needed the money as no maintenance or help from ex)
I still only have the one friend.
and I'm happy on my own. but would love to overcome my fear of abusive relationships and get back out there with the hope of finding someone who can be a decent male role model to my kids as well as a partner to me.
I've never been on a real date as I've always know my bf as friends first so I have no idea where to start! any tips?

What do you enjoy doing?

What do you imagine you might enjoy if the opportunity came along?

How can you do more of/start this activity?

Far better to get out and about generally, rather than with a mission to meet a man. You can always organise an Internet date further down the line if you want to, so there's no pressure.

Take things slowly when you meet someone new. Unless you're pretty certain it's just a physical thing.

Have a look at 'Meetups' websites People use it to organise all sorts of events you can go along to on your own. Things like meals out, walks, visits to attractions etc.

I'm newly single, and have never really dated either. I'm not in a hurry for a relationship, I can't imagine trusting anyone enough to let them in my bed again tbh, but hopefully in a while I will want to get back out there and meet people too.

You have done so well to get your life sorted out, think you deserve to enjoy some stress free fun! I would start by giving yourself more opportunities to make friends, the more you get out, the more chance you will find people you connect with. You might meet a man, you might not, but get out, have fun anyway. Once you have more friendship in your life, dating is much safer because you can discuss problems with people and avoid falling for someone dodgy.

Internet dating is the way to go if you want dates immediately, but go carefully if you do xx