Much needed advice on how to leave husband.

[mamafridi]

I have finally decided that I cannot waste another year of my life or that of my dd's hoping that my H is ever going to change and life together is going to get better so I really need advice from any mum that has actually left her husband.

I better explain that I have very little money, a not very supportive family or a job and it is because of these reasons that I have continued to stay with H. Are there any women out there that have been in a similar position that have made a successful exit from an unhappy marriage? If so please can you tell me what are the exact steps to take!

I did it last year. I was not working, but I do have supportive family. I have had to get every benefit going. But firstly you need to sit down with your H and talk about it all. Tell what you want to happen. Go to CA and find out what you would be entitled to etc etc. Good luck1

I am useless with practical advice. It took me literally years to get out of my bad marriage as I had no money, no family near and no friends.

Probably the best first step is to get as much legal advice from a family law solicitor that you can. I think a lot of firms give free 30 min. sessions.

My own breakthrough was when I was really at rock bottom and I went to the CAB in desperation and was lucky enough to speak to a brilliant solicitor. When I had explained my situation she just looked at me and smiled and said 'let's scare him shitless' :) I knew then she was the one to act for me!

You will get lots of good advice and support here!

Agree with the above to get as much information and advice as you possibly can. Legal, financial, practical. In this situation, the more information you can get and the better you make your plans, the more successful the outcome. Just going through that process and knowing there is light at the end of the tunnel can make you feel stronger, more confident and better able to assert yourself.

You describe the marriage as 'unhappy'. If that extends to any form of abuse... financial, emotional, physical, sexual etc.... then add Womens Aid to your list of people to contact. Any particular reason why your family wouldn't be supportive? Good luck