Have namechanged as this involves real people who may not wish to be outed.
There is a family member who I am close to although don't see often. She is around the same age as me and we are both in our 20s. Growing up there was a lot of heavy handed discipline in her household which I now recognise was quite severe physical and emotional abuse. We didn't see them often, but we were always close and as an adult I am troubled by this abuse which was never addressed by other adults in the family although my own household was not abusive.
However the real thing which is bothering me recently is that I've started to remember things which were said and done, which seemed innocent at the time but if I heard them now they would ring alarm bells coming from a child. I don't know if I'm just putting 2 and 1 together and making 4 because these are only half remembered memories and may have just been ordinary childish exploration, but I know that her father had previous history of sexually abusing someone, without wanting to give too many details, I only found out about this as an adult and I don't think that she herself is aware of this.
Now I don't know what to do or if I should do anything. I don't really want to go up to the family member and say "By the way, were you abused as a child?" and it doesn't feel right to discuss it with someone else in the family. NSPCC etc is inappropriate because it's historic rather than current but I also feel uncomfortable sitting on it in case it is something. I didn't know if there was any organisation or anyone I should or could talk to, or would it be best to just forget it unless she says something to me herself?